Child Behaviour

What causes your child to behave the way they do? What are they feeling, what are they trying to achieve by their behaviour, and what can you do about it? How best to help your child? There are several things that can affect your child's behaviour, and many of these can appear, disappear, recur and overlap at different times during your child's childhood and adolescence:

Developmental stage

Personality and temperament

Self esteem and well-being

Stress and anxiety

Adjusting to changes and transitions

Difficult family circumstances

Health problems

Parenting styles and home environment

Unmet needs

Generally, challenging behaviour is either a symptom of a particular developmental stage (such as the "terrible twos"), or it is a cry for help, or call for attention. Something is wrong, and the child is showing you this. In certain cases, it may be a sign of needs that are not being met. In other cases, it may simply be that you and your child have become trapped in a negative cycle of argument, punishment, and tears, and something needs to change in order for the cycle to be broken.

I believe that both innate factors (such as developmental stage) and environmental factors (such as parenting styles) influence a child’s behaviour. If you have more than one child, your children are likely to be very different. Do not expect them to have the same behaviour, or the same set of needs. They may need very different kinds of support from you. 

Together we will find out what is the root cause of your child's behaviour, and work together towards a better outcome. I believe that most childhood behavioural issues can be helped with gentle changes to one or more of the following:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Other important factors we need to consider when talking about challenging behaviour in children are:

Emotional intelligence

 

Can your child talk about or describe how they are feeling? 
 

Resilience 

 

Can they bounce back easily from failure or disappointment?

Impulsivity

 

Do they lack self-control, and the ability to regulate their own behaviour? 

 

Frustration

 

Does your child exhibit frustration or aggression? 

Mental health 

 

Poor behaviour can be a telltale sign of poor mental health.

Coercion 

Is your home environment the cause of your child's challenging behaviour?

 

Other topics that may come up are SEN, ADHD, OD, and CD (we will unravel these acronyms later!).

If you are feeling concerned or anxious about any of these issues, or feel that a particular area could do with some attention, get in touch and we will work on it together. Childhood is a time of growth, learning, development and change, and nothing is set in stone. Parenting is very much the same! Let's take the next step together.

Parenting Style

Your parenting style will affect your child's personality, sense of self worth, resilience, and their interactions with others.

Environment

Does your home provide a rich learning environment, or is it under-stimulating? Alternatively, is it over-stimulating and cluttered?

Routine

Your child's routine is should be the positive foundations of their life. It should be flexible, and regularly updated.

Diet

The food we eat has a significant affect on our mood, behaviour, and sleep. Eating should be fun and anxiety-free.

Isobel Mary Champion

4 Kimberley Gardens

Enfield

Middlesex

EN1 3SW

isobel.champion@hotmail.com

 

Tel: 079838 10 700

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